tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post9209614916626769522..comments2024-02-15T23:41:36.425-08:00Comments on SIMPLY WAIT: RATE YOUR BLISSPatry Francishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10961915797919017179noreply@blogger.comBlogger88125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-71110861397594007722008-02-09T06:51:00.000-08:002008-02-09T06:51:00.000-08:00Your words and obvious strength are beauty and emp...Your words and obvious strength are beauty and empowerment combined. It is amazing how much courage we can find in daily living, if we are open and available to it. Best of luck and I know it was no accident I found your blog today. ElaineA Journey Well Taken: Life After Losshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13248752793967857144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-91596261511815210972008-02-03T09:47:00.000-08:002008-02-03T09:47:00.000-08:00I think we'd need a new reference point for emotio...I think we'd need a new reference point for emotional pain. Invisibility, for me, would sit somewhere above loneliness (because it is loneliness imposed) and somewhere below betrayal. <BR/><BR/>That picture, by the way, and the story on the other end of the link, as just beautiful.choshahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07724444970503533654noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-44231180786611160072008-02-03T05:17:00.000-08:002008-02-03T05:17:00.000-08:00Patry, I shared a labor room with a Chinese woman,...Patry, I shared a labor room with a Chinese woman, but she spoke only one or two words of English and the hospital had no interpreters back then, so when her husband wasn't there she could say little than beautiful baby or thank you. We did not have a true bonding experience, really, but I always think of her, our sons were both born on the Chinese New Year that year - within hours of each other.<BR/><BR/>I enjoy your writing style in your blog, your words have a flow and it is obvious you have an awareness. Congratulations on your novel and I wish you more than you dare dream.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-91221218503803825282008-01-31T11:47:00.000-08:002008-01-31T11:47:00.000-08:00Patry,I discovered your book from reading Neail Ga...Patry,<BR/><BR/>I discovered your book from reading Neail Gaiman's blog. I can't wait to read it.<BR/><BR/>Lovely post - I wish you much joy.<BR/><BR/>Judy<BR/><BR/>fivehusbands.wordpress.com90daystogreenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15322177178156873991noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-51625320163059787682008-01-31T01:43:00.000-08:002008-01-31T01:43:00.000-08:00Another new reader: thank you for the great writin...Another new reader: thank you for the great writing that is taking me away from my own...<BR/><BR/>I thought childbirth without painkillers was my reference for maximal pain, too, although I realized at the time I could get through it because of a mountain-climbing experience I had had. <BR/><BR/>Then I had peritonitis from a ruptured appendix and had to move childbirth down a notch to 9.<BR/><BR/>Just like it is possible to feel more pain and expand your scale in that horizon, so is it possible to feel more happiness - bliss, if you like - than you have known to date and alter the other scale accordingly.<BR/><BR/>Isn't human sensation something wonderful! Always something new to live for that you have not experienced yet.<BR/><BR/>I'm going to link now to your blog and look forward to your future posts (and current book, on order).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-61101906445001330292008-01-30T20:38:00.000-08:002008-01-30T20:38:00.000-08:00Hello, Patry. I think you should write and talk ab...Hello, Patry. I think you should write and talk about the hospital as much as you want to. Doing so, here or any other place of your choosing, might bring you the same feelings of 'being seen' that you experienced in the hospital. I would imagine that this is a healthy thing. Everyone needs to be heard. I am so happy that your prognosis is good and you seem to be a very courageous person!<BR/><BR/>I like the comment that wondered whether or not your hospital roommate was believed by the police. I hope she was. I understand about the 'other kind of pain'. How tragic that she was run over and then someone said she had run out in front of the car, as if she herself is to be blamed for being injured. And this while already suffering!<BR/><BR/>You say that you wonder about what happened with her. This made me wonder, too. I wonder what would happen to her if you wrote the story of what happened next. What if... someone was injured in some way and then blamed for it while they were helpless. How could this person, who was really just the victim of some event, find a way to communicate the truth of what has happened to them? Surely someone, somewhere would believe? I think you would do it justice, Patry.<BR/><BR/>Wishing you much wellness, health and a VERY high bliss rating,<BR/><BR/>A Fellow WriterAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-85501911030105621102008-01-30T14:57:00.000-08:002008-01-30T14:57:00.000-08:00Just saw the trailer. Congratulations!Patry, thank...Just saw the trailer. Congratulations!<BR/><BR/>Patry, thanks for these thoughts on bliss. Your recent posts about hospital experiences are rich. Write all of them you can.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-79630982688276032692008-01-30T14:17:00.000-08:002008-01-30T14:17:00.000-08:00What a wonderful post. I agree that people rarely ...What a wonderful post. I agree that people rarely ask how happy someone is; maybe we're afraid of our own answer.<BR/><BR/>Well, this post, and your great outlook, definitely added some more bliss to the world. Sending best wishes to you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-36674375647327759062008-01-30T14:00:00.000-08:002008-01-30T14:00:00.000-08:00I just found your blog and what a blessing you are...I just found your blog and what a blessing you are. I found you through another blog that I read most every day. I wish for you pain free days that you may share with the many people that must cherish you. Thank you so much for sharing yourself. I will keep reading.Traveling Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03905120915523661114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-7142362625375762082008-01-30T13:39:00.000-08:002008-01-30T13:39:00.000-08:00I come to you via Becca's Bookstack. This is a lov...I come to you via Becca's Bookstack. This is a lovely and deeply moving post and I'm so very grateful I came by -- I'll return often. You offer much to ponder and so eloquently.<BR/><BR/>Bliss -- isn't that the best word? Right now, mine's pretty darned high!<BR/><BR/>Best wishes with "The Liar's Diary" -- I'm looking forward to reading it.Jeaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17482528482559445943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-76669143888670705882008-01-30T13:04:00.000-08:002008-01-30T13:04:00.000-08:00Thank you. Those are the words that came to my mi...Thank you. Those are the words that came to my mind as I read your post. Normally when I read a post that is great, that is what I say, "Great post.", and trust me this is one of those. But for me, reading this drew me into your world if for a few moments. Your words led to both tearful eyes and smiling lips. So Thank you, you are amazing and have given me much today. <BR/><BR/>Bliss rating: 10 :)Vickihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04521384704019863926noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-65602746451851121812008-01-30T10:57:00.000-08:002008-01-30T10:57:00.000-08:00I was just pointed to your blog by a wonderful com...I was just pointed to your blog by a wonderful commenter on my own and I'm so happy to have landed here. This post is amazing! I look forward to reading back through your writing.<BR/><BR/>Take care and best wishes---Berlinswhimsyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03584230355784440144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-55315683503505693212008-01-30T10:31:00.000-08:002008-01-30T10:31:00.000-08:00WOW, this is an incredibly moving blog. Your words...WOW, this is an incredibly moving blog. Your words have brought back memory's of the many hours I spent with my son and his roommate during his recovery.<BR/><BR/>You are a very courageous lady for sharing your story with us. I pray that all will go well for you in the upcoming days and months. <BR/><BR/>You have gained a new reader and I look forward to reading your continuing story.<BR/><BR/>God bless you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-60272280741015672632008-01-30T09:56:00.000-08:002008-01-30T09:56:00.000-08:00This is what I miss about chaplaincy work, Patry -...This is what I miss about chaplaincy work, Patry -- the sense of stepping in to that river, and finding grace in the most surprising of places. Thank you for this post.rbarenblathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10882606147795083729noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-88422877417459652952008-01-30T08:38:00.000-08:002008-01-30T08:38:00.000-08:00Hi Patry, Congrats on your book! I came by way of...Hi Patry, Congrats on your book! I came by way of Leah (creative everyday) and once I got here I thought to myself...I know her! Well not in real life, but I read your blog when I first started blogging years ago. Any way, as usual I love your writing and I love the idea of a "Bliss Scale". My rough and tumble boys who have been in the ER more times than I care to remember and were given a chart with faces rating pain 1-10. From a yellow smiley to a red angry, lol. I instantly thought of what an animated bliss scale would look like.<BR/>Hugs,<BR/>a.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-60044073260883765632008-01-30T08:36:00.000-08:002008-01-30T08:36:00.000-08:00With 72 comments before me, I'm sure you won't not...With 72 comments before me, I'm sure you won't notice mine, but that can't stop me. What a beautiful post.Jamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07551543776509110496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-7911637235897525402008-01-29T22:55:00.001-08:002008-01-29T22:55:00.001-08:00My hospital stays due to a football sized uterine ...My hospital stays due to a football sized uterine tumor and five years later two stays for ovarian cancer surgeries, yielded no bliss. I do recall my one cell, er, roommate (the other roms were private) in great detail and there was no bliss for her either. An elderly patient across the hall I will never forget, as she cried out while buzzing for a nurse, "WATER PLEASE." For over an hour she cried out, becoming hoarse like a dog that has barked nonstop, and in the morning when her family came to visit...she was dead. I could not move or cry out, though I wanted to so badly.<BR/>"How could she have died?! She was fine yesterday," the daughter weeped. There is no scale for the feeling of helplessness I felt then, and was that night seared into my soul.Diane J Standifordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11862850657925658079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-84301809824273633702008-01-29T22:55:00.000-08:002008-01-29T22:55:00.000-08:00Love the picture that goes with this post. And yo...Love the picture that goes with this post. And your story about the woman hit by a car brought to mind an unpleasant incident at my job last week. A group of students were angry about a decision I'd made about splitting the class. Two of the women were very angry and with pinched, livid faces they spun around in their seats and pointed at the other students and they shouted, "They're new! Send them!"<BR/><BR/>It was an ugly scene, and I couldn't help but think you wouldn't want these women the only thing between you and fascist police. Amazing how people can be.<BR/><BR/>At the same time, all the people commenting here, all your friends supporting you, all of that, shows we don't all spend our time pointing fingers.<BR/><BR/>Have a beautiful day.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-55523149360667946102008-01-29T17:55:00.000-08:002008-01-29T17:55:00.000-08:00Woooo Hooooo! What a day in blogland.....Patry Fra...Woooo Hooooo! What a day in blogland.....Patry Francis Day!<BR/><BR/>Just a love note here, girlie.<BR/>Hope the day was a good one.<BR/>x0x0Skyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02523247895437700129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-38924496170171709392008-01-29T16:39:00.000-08:002008-01-29T16:39:00.000-08:00I have to admit, before a few minutes ago, I'd nev...I have to admit, before a few minutes ago, I'd never heard of you. But after clicking a link on Jennifer Weiner's site and reading your most recent entry, my eyes welled up, my heart soared, and I knew I'd arrived at a very special place. <BR/><BR/>Warm, well, blissful wishes to you, Patry. I look forward to getting to know you better!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-29555793344506710452008-01-29T16:11:00.000-08:002008-01-29T16:11:00.000-08:00Hello Patry, I found you through LitPark and menti...Hello Patry, I found you through LitPark and mentioned you on my blog as well. I just thought I'd say "Hello" to you directly, and let you know that your powerful words and inspiring story really touch me. <BR/><BR/>I'd like to wish you all the best. Thinking of you - and hoping that you continue to find bliss.Rosiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10507663599361886504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-25273765516238847002008-01-29T16:05:00.000-08:002008-01-29T16:05:00.000-08:00Wonder if Patry knows she's loved?Wonder if Patry knows she's loved?LitParkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17522150687696351583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-32854172355820494072008-01-29T15:45:00.000-08:002008-01-29T15:45:00.000-08:00Dear Patry,In my haste to tell you how much I love...Dear Patry,<BR/><BR/>In my haste to tell you how much I love your writing I forgot to wish you well. Please get well.<BR/><BR/>XO SuzanneSuzannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13111045716713716292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-4831899174562571902008-01-29T15:43:00.000-08:002008-01-29T15:43:00.000-08:00Incredible, you are incredible. Full of compassion...Incredible, you are incredible. Full of compassion with a clear and deep understanding of people and life and the amazing ability to write about it all with such eloquence.<BR/><BR/>And I do believe you've earned the right to speak of the hospital for as long and as often as you like. I and many others will be here to read about it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-30814722231857033112008-01-29T15:21:00.000-08:002008-01-29T15:21:00.000-08:00Patry, I hope your day is filled with bliss. I r...Patry, I hope your day is filled with bliss. I read this and was moved to tears. For you today: http://deowriter.blogspot.com/2008/01/liars-diary-by-patry-francis.htmlJonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04299647754479967070noreply@blogger.com