tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post112433574420703010..comments2024-02-15T23:41:36.425-08:00Comments on SIMPLY WAIT: TO GOSSIP OR NOT TO GOSSIPPatry Francishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10961915797919017179noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-1170250806881839052007-01-31T05:40:00.000-08:002007-01-31T05:40:00.000-08:00Excellent, love it! stainless steel undermount kit...Excellent, love it! <A HREF="http://www.eczema-psoriasis.info/Stainlesssteelundermountkitchensinks.html" REL="nofollow">stainless steel undermount kitchen sinks</A> <A HREF="http://www.zyrtec-and-side-effect.info/Best-refinance-mortgage-interest-rate.html" REL="nofollow">best refinance mortgage interest rate</A> <A HREF="http://www.oxycontin-20mg.info/difference-between-accountant-and-financial-advisor.html" REL="nofollow">Rapid detox oxycontin alcohol detox detox rapid detox</A> <A HREF="http://www.oxycontin-20mg.info/periscope-cam-periscope-camera-surveillance.html" REL="nofollow">periscope cam periscope camera surveillance</A> <A HREF="http://www.customvuelasikposters.info/Mountain-view-eye-correction-surgery.html" REL="nofollow">mountain view eye correction surgery</A> <A HREF="http://www.side-effects-paxil.info/commercial-kitchen-plans.html" REL="nofollow">Generic paxil study</A> <A HREF="http://www.dildo-9.info/barbara-ass-skirt-fuck-story.html" REL="nofollow">barbara ass skirt fuck story</A> <A HREF="http://www.cash-advance-loan-illinois.info/kitchenlectures.html" REL="nofollow">Oklahoma cash advance payday loan personal loan</A> <A HREF="http://www.kitchentable9.info/french-kitchen-garden-designs.html" REL="nofollow">french kitchen garden designs</A> <A HREF="http://www.pay-bill-9.info/Sendbillonline.html" REL="nofollow">send bill online</A> <A HREF="http://www.lamborghini-diablo-picture.info/uywane-lamborghini.html" REL="nofollow">Lamborghini molds</A> <A HREF="http://www.kitchen-equipment-1.info/Kitchenislandworkstation.html" REL="nofollow">http://www.kitchen-equipment-1.info/Kitchenislandworkstation.html</A> <A HREF="http://www.apple-cartridges.info/Cheapest-viagra-generic-substitute.html" REL="nofollow">cheapest viagra generic substitute</A> <A HREF="http://www.nike-shoes-2.info/Quiltedcoats.html" REL="nofollow">http://www.nike-shoes-2.info/Quiltedcoats.html</A>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-1124599539152526662005-08-20T21:45:00.000-07:002005-08-20T21:45:00.000-07:00Melly: You make an interesting point. Gossip may m...Melly: You make an interesting point. Gossip may make the person who hears it feel included, but it hurts them in other ways.<BR/><BR/>sharon: Your mother had more wisdom than all the scientists and their surveys.<BR/><BR/>Gulnaz: I think Gina is getting a fan club!Patry Francishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10961915797919017179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-1124559547508882322005-08-20T10:39:00.000-07:002005-08-20T10:39:00.000-07:00I want to be like Gina too and believe that people...I want to be like Gina too and believe that people mean well at the end of the day!<BR/><BR/>the harmless and malicious gossip is the most vile...that should be refrained from all cost.gulnazhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04303326222747011474noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-1124519470093767492005-08-19T23:31:00.000-07:002005-08-19T23:31:00.000-07:00Give them a couple of years and they'll come out w...Give them a couple of years and they'll come out with a study saying the exact opposite! ; )<BR/><BR/>I stand by my mother's advice: if you can't say something good about someone, don't say anything at all. The world doesn't need any more hurt, hate, or even salacious rumor than it already has.Sharon Hurlbuthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04684319527146674878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-1124484980189127052005-08-19T13:56:00.000-07:002005-08-19T13:56:00.000-07:00I find gossip to be especially bad in the work pla...I find gossip to be especially bad in the work place. It's usually almost the only form of conversation and it also tends to be particularly nasty too. There have been so many times I wished I hadn't heard what I had.<BR/><BR/>Great post.Mellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17461471128865537538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-1124463897111980792005-08-19T08:04:00.000-07:002005-08-19T08:04:00.000-07:00p.v.: thanks for clicking over to my other blog.An...p.v.: thanks for clicking over to my other blog.<BR/><BR/>And I think you're right. The 2/3 estimate is probably a conservative one.Patry Francishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10961915797919017179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-1124432520814630422005-08-18T23:22:00.000-07:002005-08-18T23:22:00.000-07:00Firstly I want to say how inspirational I found yo...Firstly I want to say how inspirational I found your open reply to the young Irish girl. You gave a very modest account of your own experience, which was in itself a worthy lesson to any aspiring writer. I can empathise fully with your youthful classroom reticence, I was equally bashful in a group of my peers. Fears of criticism and rejection kept me from blowing my metaphorical trumpet throughout my education.<BR/><BR/>I tested the ”gossip theory” today and can report that the estimate of two thirds may even be too cautious. Most conversations I heard today were digging the dirt on this colleague or that. So vigorous must have been some of the character assassinations that discussions fell silent as I approached. Surely the subject of those can’t have been me?!<BR/><BR/>I loved the way you cleverly built the case for this argument, convincing me (as you had initially been convinced) of its authenticity, only to send it ultimately tumbling along with others of its kind. I don’t buy it either but in a certain light and from a certain angle, it is rather attractive!Perfect Virgohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17842802482293784692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-1124425060902454712005-08-18T21:17:00.000-07:002005-08-18T21:17:00.000-07:00Dale: And of course, if you really wanted to moral...Dale: <BR/>And of course, if you really wanted to morally correct someone else's behavior, the more loving course would be to go to that person directly, not to talk behind their back. <BR/><BR/>The article really did remind me of a recent study (undoubtedly backed by big food) which said that overweight people live longer than their slender friends, and encouraging people to indulge themselves in the buffet line. It was soon proved fraudulent, but for a few days I allowed myself to eat key lime pie and all the cheese enchiladas my heart desired--which is a lot. <BR/><BR/>Similarly, the gossip study made me think that maybe I could give up my lifelong struggle with my "favorite"<BR/>vice. I wasn't really bad mouthing my "friends." I was performing a valuable service to society. It was fun while it lasted, but I'm already feeling the after effects.<BR/><BR/>Look like Gina had it right all along.Patry Francishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10961915797919017179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-1124389977708303772005-08-18T11:32:00.000-07:002005-08-18T11:32:00.000-07:00I was taken aback when I first ran into the Buddhi...I was taken aback when I first ran into the Buddhist strictures on gossip. They're pretty stern about it: it ranks up there with sins such as sloth & avarice. The longer I've lived with them, the more sense they've made to me, though. What gossip really is essentially, I think, is an imputation of malign motive, and what makes it so satisfying is that the gossibpers move together to solidify the imputation. "We're all the good kind of people who would never do X, not intentionally, anyway. But they're the kind of people who will do X whenever they can get away with it."<BR/><BR/>Even when it's not inaccurate -- as it usually is, for what do we ever really know of other people's motives, even if we get the story of their actions straight? -- it always has the effect of fencing someone out, and fencing ourselves in.Dalehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14523194846272870013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-1124381416815609362005-08-18T09:10:00.000-07:002005-08-18T09:10:00.000-07:00Jordi and Anthony: New visitors, especially those ...Jordi and Anthony: New visitors, especially those with kind words to say, are always welcome. Thank you and come again!<BR/><BR/>santanu: Nice to see your hard hat again. Thanks for sharing your insight.<BR/><BR/>Bev: You are so right about the standards and morals that are formed--and enforced--by gossip. So maybe if the gossipers are sure that what they're saying is true, and it's not said with malicious glee, it's not totally a bad thing.Patry Francishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10961915797919017179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-1124379467283954312005-08-18T08:37:00.000-07:002005-08-18T08:37:00.000-07:00I'm afraid I got caught in some gossip this week, ...I'm afraid I got caught in some gossip this week, and it was really, <I>really</I> embarrassing, even though the gossip was gospel. Gina, I too wish I could be more like you.<BR/><BR/>But I've read that gossip is society's way of forming standards, morals, and without such judgmental intercourse between people, we would all likely be wild and utterly barbarian. I dunno. Great post!Bev Jacksonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14394278185384388199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-1124344179853964582005-08-17T22:49:00.000-07:002005-08-17T22:49:00.000-07:00"Cross the line and you won't just burn in some di..."Cross the line and you won't just burn in some distant and perhaps metaphorical hell. Vicious tongues will wag for weeks." - Lovely lines! My wife is usually at the receiving end, so I know perfectly well what gossip is all about and fully endorse your desription / definition of it. :-)<BR/>Nice Post!ShaanChohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12310473626552305670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11695927.post-1124339030777115392005-08-17T21:23:00.000-07:002005-08-17T21:23:00.000-07:00great blog...keep it up.great blog...keep it up.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07306763527451245390noreply@blogger.com